Soulmate,Are you looking for the right one?

Well, this posting is going to be a little different than usual, and it has nothing to do with travel or financial issue like what i would usually written and the discussion will not be in a poetic sound either.

So, straight forward," are you/ we are actually looking for a right soulmate?"
Have you ever asked such a question to yourself? .......
Reason is because, when we're looking for the right person,.. we often search for "similarity" which is the magic word.
"I wish he/she cooks"
"I wish he/she love sport or badminton or swim"
"I wish he/she enjoys classic music instead of the stupid rock brain draining music.
Well, why are we looking for similarities? its obvious isn't it that the more similarities we have, .. the more reason/excuses we can have to be "TOGETHER" with each other.. ohhh.. , how sweet... haha.

Imagine if you love writing, and the "dream girl" enjoys typing sms better, it will be like you're writing alone and she will not reply. Or you love fast food and she loves street food that you are so extremely anti for being not hygienic.

Or when you're out, you do enjoys gardens and a lovely cafe with a cozy music and a small chit chat while she loves food and shopping to the blood... ha3x.

Well, dating or PDKT in indonesian means to find and understand each quality and to see if the surface differences between both of the people can be matched through a bonding relationship or not. then the "COMPROMISE"-stage comes later.

well, there is nothing totally wrong with that, but clearly, we are out there looking for The Oher Half. Of course if its an organ, we certainly looking for something symetrical whether in physical or chemical properties.

however, the word to simply Complete and being Rich in content is alot of different when you're starting to look for differences in others rather than similarities between you and the one.
First of all, I do not believe in key and lock assumption of relationship in which there is only one key to every woman's heart.

I am more or less into Blade and the cover relationship. a long blade cannot fit in a short cover, and obviously everyone can see a flaw in it if you keep fitting in one, howver it is up to you if both is okay, things can go on. Some holy great royal sword may not mind to be wrapped around a pretty but made of poor material.

Simply ask yourself,.... Why would you not looking for a compatible differences between you and your soul mate?

what i mean is like, well, both of you love food, but one enjoys spicy food the other one enjoys a sweat desert like ice cream. What both people need is the love for food which later on will help you to try the spicy food and the icecream. every once in a while you will have spicy food, and then the desert is icecream when you have spicy food. It may not be perfect for both, but its a good enough combination.

the other is if you like sport, one enjoys let say karate and the other enjoys swimming. pull a thing together, jogging and strecthing excercise is extremely important for both sport why not go out there and have a try of it together?? jogging is to build stamina and stretching is to gain flexibility and reduce injury, but both of the exercise is ALOT more fun when you do it WITH someone. Jogging is boring when its alone, and streching is better with someone's assistance. so you both have reason to do things together without have to merge and force between things that you love. let the other to enjoy what each of you love, but yet when you grow , you get better together because you're always with each other when you're training.

this is what i meant by "Compatible differences", not only complete both of the party, it makes it richer in quality and quantity.

instead of compromising to argue who should be accompanying whom this week, ... both can indeed be more creative and open mindedly enjoy what they love. while you can finish third quarter of the spicy food and she can finish the third quarter of the icecream for example. but enjoys it altho the other loves it alot more.

So, what is wrong with finding a "key and lock" or "a perfect simetrical" the other half?
In my humble opinion (IMHO), first is that it is extremely hard and it may be amongst 6.5 billion (consider you're a person with a sexually confused orientation,... mean if you're a man, you are not sure if you're gay or straight.. ha3x).

not everyone can find a good one and a simple answer is that how many times do you go to a park and see there is a 65 years old man still holding his wife hand or they're sleeping on the arm of each other? not a usual thing rite? and why would that be? are we not sure that we will still love each other until the end of the time?

the answer is that when its so similar, it gets so boring easily.

Again,... are you looking for the right one then??